Joey Magidson
Apologies to those of you who are looking for some kind of Oscar article today, but this is a day that I’m using to mark a very sad anniversary. The podcast will be up tomorrow and my final Academy Award nomination predictions will be up on Friday, but today…this is something different. One year ago, I lost my mother.
Last year, I shared the sad news here in a post where I urged you all to call your mother if you could. That remains very much the case again this year. In fact, I want to once more share what J.K. Simmons said in his Oscar acceptance speech:
“Call your mom, everybody. I’m told there’s like a billion people or so (watching). Call your mom. Call your dad, if you are lucky enough to have a parent or two alive on this planet. Don’t text. Don’t e-mail. Call ’em on the phone. Tell them you love them, and thank them, and listen to them for as long as they want to talk to you.”
It’s a very sad day for me, and frankly, it’s been a very sad year. There’s no way to properly describe it if you haven’t been through the same kind of loss, but it’s a gaping hole in your heart, in your world, that just doesn’t go away. It’s like a conversation cut off in the middle that you’ll never get to finish. I’m not a fan of goodbyes in general, but this kind of forever one just tears me in two. Most days, I’m more or less fine, but there’s always at least a moment or two throughout the day when it hits me all over again. Some days, and especially on quiet nights, it hits harder, and the wave of crushing sadness comes right back at you.
I’ve done a lot in a year. The site continued to grow. Film festivals were covered. Various interesting events were attended. Romantic interests came and went. At all almost all junctures, I would have wanted to talk to her about it. So, call your mom today if you can. I know I would if I could. I promise we’ll return to our regularly scheduled programming tomorrow (the podcast is already in the can), but for today, spare a thought for my family and I. It’s a tough day.
I miss you, ma.
Hi Joey, this coming Sunday will be the fourth anniversary of my Mum’s passing but the memory of that awful first year and first anniversary is still so very fresh. The hole you talk about will never be filled, those quiet nights are still pretty horrible at times and you will never be as happy as when she was around but I can tell you that it does get a little easier with each passing year and anniversary because you slowly begin to get used to your Mum being no longer with you. It will never be the same and it’s still so tough not to be able to share with my Mum all the things that have happened to me over the past four years but I can promise you that you’ve now gone through the most painful peroid and hopefully the next year won’t be so hard for you. I personally light a candle and toast my Mum each evening which I find quite comforting. Anyway, I hope this helps a little and wishiing you all the very best .
I am sorry for your loss I apologize for not responding at the time. I lost my mom almost two months ago . I was very lucky to have her she believed love and laughter was all that matters. I keep thinking of things I want to tell her not always important things but silly stuff boring stuff. Just anything that she would understand better than anyone else .
Take care.
I’m sorry for your loss.
Thank you
Of course
Thank you for that. I appreciate it.
I put my comments at the bottom but honestly this is for anyone who loses their mom . I am still trying to figure out how to deal with it.
Thank you.
I’m so sorry for your loss Kellie. It’s so very hard to deal with in those first few months. I had some bereavement counselling but all that really does is encourage you to talk about your feelings which I have no trouble with anyway and by the sounds of things neither do you or Joey so I’m not sure it will help much. Even now almost four years on I still catch myself saying every so often ‘oh I must tell Mum that’ only to quickly realise that I can’t. However, like I said to Joey, that sadness does lessen over time. Wishing you all the best.
Thank you Richard . It’s a void and I can talk freely about her that’s a comfort. I appreciate everyone that has expressed sympathy and support. Just simple words are more helpful than I expected.